During the last year I have been away from the chemistry blogosphere and immersed in reading classic literature and acting in a few plays. I won’t take up bandwidth with a lot of details, but suffice it to say that I would urge young technocrats to spend a bit of time reading some classic literature or doing some artistic activity. In my case, I have a special fondness for 19th century literature. Not a minute I’ve spent immersed in Balzac, Pushkin, Gogol, or the earlier writings of Cicero, brings even the slightest regret for time not spent with chemistry.
Of course, my threadbare-epiphany is in no way novel and barely worth mentioning. Many people spread their wings and glide over the wonderment of new lands. For me, I have simply chosen to spend the time doing so. Scientific greatness is not in the hand I was dealt. There will be no reactions or campus buildings named in my honor. This is the fate for most of us, really. Only it takes some time to come to that realization. Loosening one’s grip on ambition is not gladly done. Those of us who have gotten advanced degrees are, in a very real sense, freaks who have a fiendishly tight grasp and a capacity for extended abuse (you know it’s true!).
The reality of aging is that in the footrace of one’s career, faster, younger and hungrier runners begin to catch up and surpass you. This is actually essential for the continuation of scientific progress and the extension of this age of enlightenment. The trick lies in not allowing one’s vanity to accentuate this natural progression in some humiliating way. The merits of silence become increasingly apparent with age to those who can manage it.
This cancer business has the effect of telescoping one’s life in the sense that the end-game once obscured by the haze of time begins to take shape as would an approaching stranger in the fog. It is the fear of this approaching stranger that causes the afflicted to grasp for any and all treatments, clinical or mystical. At some point it should become clear that spending down your retirement and impoverishing your survivors is destructive and selfish. But you cannot rely on your physician to help with this. Your final act as a mature adult is to decide when to call off treatment. This is not accepting defeat. It is acknowledging biological reality.
Cancer has a large head-game aspect and one’s internal monolog must constantly chant the importance of living in the moment and keeping a cheerful attitude. Those around you will be grateful, even if they do not outright say so.
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November 17, 2014 at 7:48 am
PPedroso
Beautiful words. All the best.
November 17, 2014 at 8:29 am
Morris
Always wonderful to hear from you, my friend.
November 17, 2014 at 9:01 am
Chemjobber
Well said, Gaussling — very affecting words. Hope you and yours are well.
November 17, 2014 at 9:02 am
Chemjobber
(as well as can be in the circumstances…)
November 17, 2014 at 9:13 am
Gale
Articulate as always, sir. I would aso recommend working to learn a new language as a way to keep the mental demons from ricocheting around your head. Or at least drown them out. It certainly helps those prone to lesser trials than yours, such as panic attacks and bipolar disorders. Not that I would know anything about that.
November 17, 2014 at 12:01 pm
JMP
Gaussling, I am a long time reader of your blog and even though I haven’t commented ever, I have kept track of your blog ever since I began grad school 7 yrs ago and left with a M.S. I used to periodically come back and check the blog to see how you are doing. I am not much of a religious man, but I am sending my very best wishes to you, and hopefully you stay in good spirits.
November 17, 2014 at 1:57 pm
John Spevacek
Glad to read your wonderful writings again
November 18, 2014 at 9:04 am
PPedroso
Following what Gale said, learn Portuguese. Best Language Ever!
November 18, 2014 at 10:40 pm
gaussling
You may be interested to know that is the language she is studying.
November 20, 2014 at 8:06 am
PPedroso
Nice!
If she or you need any help just let me know, since I am Portuguese! 🙂
February 22, 2015 at 3:57 pm
Bennett
I have read this blog from almost the beginning, and have enjoyed the breadth of topics covered and the prose used to describe them. I am sure that the mind which did not shy away from the other tricky subjects will not falter now. My family has a long history of Alzheimer’s disease, so I mean it when I say I hope you remain yourself as this plays out. Keep strong.
February 22, 2015 at 10:35 pm
gaussling
Thanks for the kind words. It’s appreciated.
June 8, 2015 at 7:45 am
Fritz Wolff
I stumbled on your blog for the first time in my life (of 72 years) and enjoyed your point of view. Here is true wisdom well expressed.
My best wishes and thanks for these, oh so true, thoughts.
Yours Fritz
August 24, 2015 at 4:18 pm
gaussling
Hello Fritz,
I haven’t been very diligent in checking this blog this year. Thank you for the comments. Kindest regards and best wishes in your adventure of life.
Larry